05 April 2017

365 later.

Life is really different than it was a year ago today.

A year ago today I wore a black skirt with a blue blazer. I walked into a court room with my parents. A judge asked me to verify I was not pregnant and if this marriage was beyond repair. I faintly uttered a soft "yes."

Later that night, I went out to dinner with my siblings. I was in the car and my brother-in-law reached  to the back seat and squeezed my hand and said, "You will be okay Patty. You'll be okay."

Even when I most have felt like I am not gonna be okay or that the sadness was too much, David was right. I am going to be okay.

Life feels uncertain in other ways, but I am going to be okay.

I'm living on my own (actually for the first time ever! #icecreamfordinner ;). 

I've been going to counseling and reading recovery books like its a second full-time job.

I am going to a divorce ministry training with some ladies from church in hopes to start a divorce recovery group where I work.

I am talking with a friend in hopes to work together to create some kind of presentation and/or supportive network to women in relationships where the man is addicted to porn...how to support and empower these women in a difficult situation.

I joined an awesome parish.

My annulment went through.

I am in regular contact with women around the country in a similar situation I was and meeting more Catholic women who have went through a divorce.

But sometimes I still get easily overwhelmed and want to jump in bed and pull the covers over my head. The past several days I've been riding the struggle bus.

Who am I kidding. I was DRIVING the freaking struggle bus...because why else would I eat a pint of ice cream on a Saturday night? 

Last night I called my Mom...cause sometimes you just need to talk to your Mom.
I blubbered and cried: I'm excited but really, really nervous to date again, struggling with loneliness sometimes, and facing disappointment of not getting a job I really wanted that I thought was God's will for me. 

I get anxious sometimes worrying how long it will take to pay off my school loans and wondering how the budget will balance each month or how long I'll have to live with things so financially tight.

Life is always evolving and changing and sometimes I feel like I cannot keep up. But then again its not my job to be in control of my life either.

A year ago today my prayer was to not let the hurt and sadness drown me. And it hasn't.

Today my prayer is the prayer of abandonment.

Father, I abandon myself into Your hands;
do with me as You will.

Whatever You may do, I thank You; 
I am ready for all, I accept all.

Let only Your will be done in me and in all Your creatures.
I wish no more than this, O Lord.

Into Your hands, I commend my soul; 
I offer it to you with all the love of my heart,
for I love You, Lord, and so need to give myself,
to surrender myself into Your hands without reserve
and with boundless confidence, for You are my Father.

So here's to living this more and more in each day...

And to whatever the next 365 days hold.

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  1. Beautifully written, Patty! Thank you for sharing your journey with us... Your story is helping a lot of people! The prayer of abandonment has been one of my favorites during some particularly difficult times. I'm super excited for you and for whatever God has in store for you next! :)

    1. Thank you Deanna:) Most of the time I am excited for whatever God has in store ;)

  2. Patty, you are amazing! I am so blessed by reading about your story and how God has been continually working in and through you. I think that He's doing some amazing things with what you've experienced as you reach out to others! When life gets overwhelming, just keep clinging to God and try to breathe. I know that I haven't experienced anything near as drastic and sad as you have this week, but the other day I just felt really overwhelmed by life and everything that I thought was on my plate. And my ultra-calm husband told me: "Whenever I get overwhelmed, I just go to bed. Then I wake up and eat cereal." And so I did that (despite how much I wanted to try working on one of the million things I thought I needed to do), and it really did help a lot :)

  3. You are an amazing and strong lady. So glad to know you. <3

  4. Your vulnerability is such a gift to your readers. Thank you for being so honest with your words; it inspires me to be honest in prayer with God <3 I'm keeping you in my prayers, that the next 365 days be an opportunity to totally abandon yourself to Divine Providence

  5. Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart so honestly and openly, sweet sister. Praying for you. And thank you for the reminder of the prayer of abandonment - such a good one.

  6. I am so glad to have come across your blog.
    I would love to connect re: divorce ministry. I am going through this as well, and I can clearly see the need for more support in Catholic Churches. But then as a single parent, I'm finding I have very little time to get involved in anything. So... who knows what the answer is but I can say that my support people are the reason I keep my head above the water (after my faith of course :) ).
    Thank you for sharing ❤

    1. Thank you Katie!!! Message me with your e-mail address! I would love to chat and connect and support you as you go through the process....praying for peace and healing!


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